sister wives

God, I love reality tv shows.  There are many that I am loyal to but Sister Wives on TLC in by far my favorite.  The show follows the Brown family (Kody and his 3 wives...Meri, Janelle, Christine and Robyn and all 900 of their kids) as they find out how to make life work as a polygamist family in Las Vegas.  It's a trainwreck and I ADORE watching it all go down.  This show really brings out the pious side of me and it also makes me incredibly sad sometimes.  My girlfriend Beth was over one day and we were watching an episode and she says "you know, I really wouldn't mind that." Beth is cray.
We did talk about it at length and decided that it wouldn't be half bad if WE were sister wives.  But this would be easy because I already love Beth and we would probably abandon our relationship with our husband because we'd have each other (except when one of us needed some sweet lovin' and you better believe we'd gossip about it later unlike those prudes on the show.)

But honestly, I just don't get it!  There is no way that that man can truly fulfill all 4 of those relationships on any level that has even a slightest resemblance of a marriage.  Marriage is hard enough for Dave and I alone and we only have each other to contend with!  We get on each other's nerves constantly. He pisses me off and I know that I can be a pain in the ass.  We are both very stubborn, I'm selfish, he closes down.  That's the way we are and I know we are not alone.  We may not have the ability to make our everyday relationship feel as new and exciting as it was 5 years ago when we'd make out at every red stoplight but we have something greater, at least I feel like it's pretty great and that's the mutual understanding that marriage is not a hand in hand walk on the beach at sunset  I dropped those expectations on our honeymoon after I realized that we were not going to be having a mind-blowing romantic trip filled with "I never want to leave this room amazing sex" but instead daily bickering about God only knows what.  I remember being frosty with him for an entire day because he knew how to kayak and I didn't and I'm pretty sure he left me behind to drown...

 We know that every day, every single day, we have to spend intentional time with each other or we will absolutely fall apart at the seams.  Marriage is hard work that needs attention on a daily basis...not just when you get a turn in the weekly wife rotation.


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